Co-Dependent vs. Ultra-Independent
A couple of days ago I was walking through Lakeview Cemetery listening to the comedian Rhea Butcher on Nicole Byer's podcast Why Won't You Date Me? and something clicked on in my brain. Rhea was telling Nicole the story about how she met her current partner: a mutual friend invited them both to dinner, they ended up sitting next to each other, and it was a clear path to love straightaway from there. Nicole, who is in her 30's, shares often on her podcast that she's never had a "real" romantic relationship -- partnership. As you might guess by her podcast's title, she's questing to understand why relationships are so challenging for her. She's fun and outgoing and minces no words about her love of sex. But I could hear the confusion radiating out of her when Rhea casually recounted her how-I-met-my-partner story. Like, it was that easy? You sat next to each other and, boom , it all worked out? Why doesn't th...